Sexual differences in emotional attachment
Sexual differences in emotional attachment are the differences in the ways that men and women love each other. Iron Rule of Tomassi #6 states, "Women are utterly incapable of loving a man in the way that a man expects to be loved."
MattyAnon writes, "There is no 'in love' for women, as a semi-permanent state of affairs like you think it is (and like it is for you). There are transient feelings of affection towards you, but do not be fooled: it can all change on a dime." Illimitable Men explains that there is a hierarchy of love:
The problem is contingent on not only the way in which man craves to be loved, but likewise the way in which woman is capable of loving. Man desires a sacrificial love, sacrifice implies loyalty and connection. What men want from love, and what woman’s love amounts to is fundamentally irreconcilable.
In matters of love (and not simply lust,) man is an optimistic egalitarian. He loves as he wishes to be loved. In matters of love, when man is young and oblivious to the ways of women, he is a true adherent of the golden rule.
The folly of man’s nature lies in the belief that the loyalty quintessential to woman’s maternal instinct will be available within a romantic context. He believes rather foolishly, that as his mother loved him, the idealised girlfriend could. He sees how women love their children, and upon making such an observation concludes that women are capable of great love. This is true, they are. Only sadly, this great love is a love reserved solely for children, it extends not to man. As such, man has an idealisation of woman’s love, not a realisation. . . . .
The epitome of a woman’s love is infatuation. To define it, this is a lust for your power and an obsession with how your character makes her feel, secondary to your power. It is put crudely: opportunism and emotional self-appeasement alchemised with lust.
Man oft forgets that love does not flow upward in the sacrificial sense. He makes the mistake of thinking that because he can love a woman without lusting for her, that a woman can do the same. She cannot, because her love is not based on sacrifice, it is based on the appreciation of man’s sacrifice met with lust. The more man sacrifices for a woman, the more likely he is to fall in love with his investment. The more a woman sacrifices for man absent of animal lust, the more repulsion she feels for him, interpreting her need for investment as a shortcoming on his part. And so there it is, unspoken in word but detected in sentiment; woman expects man to love her more than she loves him, reinforcing the hierarchy of love. Female sacrifice is predicated on lust and mental entrapment. Male sacrifice is expected, and freely given.
It has been noted that "women value emotional attachment in a relationship since this means access to a man's resources, ensuring safety for her and her children. Conversely, men value sex and exclusivity because it ensures he can pass on his genes successfully. If a woman has an emotional affair, men are less worried if sex is not involved. If a man has a sexual affair, women are less worried if he is not emotionally invested in the other woman."